With all the mundane that is so typical after years, even decades together, do you think it's possible to fall in love with your spouse again? Can you rekindle that spark?
This weekend, I found another reason to fall in love with my husband all over again. Even after 33 years of marriage.
I've never been one to ask a lot of my husband. But he's always been willing to go out and pick up whatever I need.
It doesn't matter if it's Christmas Day or any other day. If I need something, he's right there ready to go get it. Always.
When I'm cooking a big dinner for guests and need flour or sugar, he'll hop in the car to go to the store.
When I'm baking and an appliance gives up the ghost, he's been known to run out and purchase a replacement, right there on the spot.
He always phones before coming home to ask if I need anything picked up on the way.
This past weekend, I came home after a long walk with a friend. My friend and I were supposed to go for a coffee, but decided instead to keep walking and talking. When I got home, I told hubby we hadn't stopped for coffee. He immediately offered to go get me a special type of latte he knows I enjoy.
Since he was all cozied up in his recliner chair, in his lounging pants (fancy term for PJ bottoms) I told him it was okay. Stay comfortable. I'd do without.
"I WANT to," he said. "I really do." And with that comment, he got up to go get changed. When he came back to the kitchen for his car keys, he told me why he wants to get me whatever I want or need.
Before we were married, he saw his friends refuse to do something their wives had asked of them. And he saw the disharmony and turmoil it caused. He could never understand why his friends didn't just go out and do what was asked.
"After all, that's what you do when you love someone," he said.
He made a promise to himself that if he ever got married, if his wife asked him to do something or if he thought she wanted something picked up, he would do it. Willingly.
And he always has.
To the men reading this post: To a woman, THIS IS ROMANCE!
In all the years we've been married, I never questioned why he was so willing to be helpful. I thought it was because I so seldom asked. And I always appreciated--and still do appreciate--every time he is helpful.
But after all these years, to learn why. To realize he knew as a young man how important it was to do things for each other. My heart was bursting with love for him.
It's the little things that can make a marriage work. The little things that add up over the course of time. The little things that show how much you love someone.
Picking up something from the store. Taking out the garbage. Bringing your spouse a treat or a coffee. Cooking dinner. Doing the dishes. Without being asked. These are statements of love.
And when each of you are showing your love by doing things for each other and by the gratitude you show for such loving acts, it's possible to fall in love with your spouse over and over and over again.
I sure have.