Friday, February 7, 2014

Never Forget The People Who Turned Their Backs on You

Never Forget The People Who Turned Their Backs on You
It's easy to fondly remember those who stood by you in difficult times. Easy to remain loyal to these people because they were there for you at a time when you needed them most.

But what of those who you believe turned their backs on you? Or worse, those who you believe caused you the difficult time? Easy to remember them, but certainly not fondly. Right?

You know where this is going, don't you? If you've read any of my blog posts, you know that I tend to see the value in just about everything. Today is no exception.

What if those who left you or those who put you in your difficult time are in part responsible for you getting out of your challenging time?

Yes, it's important to have people in our court. People we can rely on to hear us. People we can turn to for advice and support.

But those who turn their backs on us may well be doing us an unexpected favour. Forcing us to go inward. Putting us in a position to face the emotions that are surfacing. Emotions that centre on betrayal and abandonment.

And what of those we believe have caused us the difficult time?

First of all, I don't believe others are responsible for our feelings and emotions. I believe people are in our lives in order to help us experience what we are here to experience. They are mirrors for us. An opportunity for deeper healing. Yet another chance to complete whatever experience we have yet to complete.

I also believe we experience what we do as a result of where we are vibrating, which is about feelings. The language of the Universe is vibrational frequency. Even with children.

Most people don't think that new-born children could be the Creator of their own reality, because they are not even talking yet. But the Universe is not responding to your language anyway. The Universe is responding to your vibration, and your vibration is about the way you feel.
So yes, I say remember those who have hurt you. Those who have not been there when you thought they should be. Those who brought about the pain in the first place. But not in a negative way. Not in a hateful or hostile way.

These are the people who provided you with an opportunity to delve deep inside your Self and find out just how strong you really are. And they helped provide an opening for you to shed what was no longer serving you.

Remember these people fondly. But first, allow yourself to feel the anger and pain of betrayal and abandonment. Just don't wallow in it indefinitely.

And when you get beyond that pain, perhaps you will see that these people pushed you beyond what you thought you were capable of. To a place of deep inner strength. A place of self-love. For this, they deserve to be remembered fondly.

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  1. Darlene. your ability to see all things if a positive light is a talent most of us have yet to develop but if we all did, the world would be a better place.

    1. That's a lovely thing to say, Anonymous. Thank you!

  2. I love the insight you have into deep pain and and healing. I too have had a wondrous healing experience and am always happy to read bout others. God bless you.

    1. And I hope you continue to share in your wondrous healing experience(s), Natalie. For when we share, we bring more healing into the world. Love & light to you.


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