As children, what others tell us we tend to embrace. Especially when those others are our parents. If we're told we're ugly or stupid or that we won't amount to anything, chances are we'll believe it.
But there comes a point when we can no longer blame others for the way we feel about ourselves. There comes a point when we must take responsibility for our own beliefs, thoughts, and yes, even our self-esteem.
We do have a choice here.
We can abdicate our personal responsibility in the way we self-talk. Or we can choose to take responsibility for our own thoughts and shed the vile beliefs. Even though the negative self-talk was taught to us by the very people who were in charge of our well-being.
We can tell ourselves that our parents ruined us. Or we can choose to see ourselves in a light that our parents did not. Even when we came from a home that may well have seemed to ruin us.
We can live our lives believing that we are helpless to a set of viewpoints that were driven into us at a time when we were helpless. Or we can re-write those viewpoints to reflect the truth of Who We Really Are. Even though those viewpoints seem set in stone.
Because no matter what your parents or guardians did to you, you get to choose. No matter what they told you, you still get to choose. No matter how challenging your childhood, you get to choose the way you feel about yourself.
Yes, you get to choose whether you self-love or self-destruct. And yes, it takes walking a healing path to get to a place where you begin to see that you were told lies. Yes, it takes a conscious effort to get to a place where you dismiss all the lies in favour of the truth about your Self.
You are worthy. But as long as you are the one who doesn't believe that, you'll hang onto the idea of your unworthiness. You will find examples of that unworthiness in every aspect of your life. You'll live your life in victimland rather than victoryland.
Announce your worthiness. Tell yourself you're worthy at every junction. Write, type or scribble down just how worthy you are whenever you get the opportunity. In this way, the belief that you are unworthy will eventually fall away. And the energy of worthiness will envelop you.
Worthiness, in very simple terms, means I have found a way to let the Energy reach me, the Energy that is natural, reach me. Worthiness, or unworthiness, is something that is pronounced upon you by you. You are the only one that can deem yourself worthy or unworthy. You are the only one who can love yourself into a state of allowing, or hate yourself in a state of disallowing. There is not something wrong with you, nor is there something wrong with one who is not loving you. You are all just, in the moment, practicing the art of not allowing, or the art of resisting~Abraham