Monday, November 18, 2013

3 Things People Tell Themselves That Kill Happiness

3 Things People Tell Themselves That Kill Happiness

Do you ever wonder why you're not happy? Do you ask yourself why is it that others seem happy but you're not? Does it feel as though the happiness gene somehow bypassed your genome?

I used to believe happiness was fleeting. Experienced in rare moments of time. Moments meant to be cherished but seldom repeated.

Those were the days when I didn't understand that happiness could not come from some external force. Before I came to realize that happiness had to come from within me.

Greg Habstritt, founder of SimpleWealth, was one of the brilliant speakers at Afest 2013 in Punta Cana. He said that most people believe that happiness comes from having something.

"If I only had ______, I could be truly happy." But this is the myth of more.

3 things people tell themselves that kill happiness:

1. I want financial freedom. This is a great marketing keyword phrase, but it's BS. The statement really doesn't say much of anything. And can easily set one up for disappointment.

2. I'm doing this for my family. This is typical of the person who works extremely long hours. What's actually happening is that you are taking valuable time AWAY from your family. Time that you can never get back. No one dies wishing they had worked harder.

3. What is my purpose? A crazy-making question for many. Fact is, no one cares about your purpose but you. But what's more important is that it doesn't matter.

We give our power away when we expect happiness from some "thing" outside of ourselves. And no matter how that some "thing" may bring you some form of joy initially, at some point it will fade and you will be disappointed. Back to waiting for the next some "thing" to bring happiness that never really comes.

Strategies for happiness:
 
1. Focus on gratitude rather than gratification--and make it a habit. Each day find 5 things to be grateful for. Write them down. This is a great way to end your day.

2. The one-for-one rule: replace rather than add. Get out of the culture that more is better. It's not.

3. Focus on BEING happy, not getting happy. Being happy comes from within. Getting happy is trying to find happiness by getting things. And "things" are not what brings happiness.

Happiness and Life by John Lennon

3 comments:

  1. Hey that's a great blog! I am feeling refreshed after reading your post! Thanks for the brilliant thoughts.

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  3. I believe that if I do something then this occupation is of benefit to me and therefore I am happy that I can live and do what I need.

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