tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6357688811974718594.post2685744513167145169..comments2024-03-26T03:18:34.621-07:00Comments on Darlene Barriere: Author. Speaker. Coach.: What You Believe Becomes Your RealityDarlene Barrierehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06241246406456226489noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6357688811974718594.post-86289706614494844632014-02-27T03:22:09.281-08:002014-02-27T03:22:09.281-08:00My husband of 25 years and I were abused as childr...My husband of 25 years and I were abused as children. Last year our Marriage was in crisis when his narcissist mother interfered. He ended our Marriage and walked away from our sons (16 & 19) stating "I can't go against my parents" to me, then to our sons, then to the one only psychologist meeting he agreed to. She (at 76) is still able to abuse/controlling him. He shared with me everything he could remember as a child over our 27 years together, the gaps were filled by his four siblings over those decades who told us that it hurt them so much my husband got the worst. Now he tells me his mother never hurt him and that he rang her and she said she never hurt him. It breaks my heart for him, for me and for our sons the blame, anger, hatred, abandonment, adultery against me he has engaged. In 27 years before our crisis, I knew him to be mildly angry only twice in car altercations and I had never known him to hate anyone, until me. In understanding denial, projection,dissociation, etc I would like to ask if there are any adult children who can advise a way (with all our love and kindness and patience) that I can reach him - what he knew to be true for 46 years and now says it never happened. I have given him a Supreme Court Order about his brother that states the mother and father psychologically and physically abused their 5 children. I still can’t believe he knows all this and he’s known it for decades and now he hates me and says it’s not true while looking at Supreme Court proof. My sons and I have tried an intervention, lovingly. That is when he moved away and we haven’t seen him in over 9 months. We were stonewalled and got the silent treatment, then he threatened me with a restraining order to not contact him ever. After 27 years, and my sons their entire lives, it has been a huge shock, almost 3 decades ended in a few words and no chance of a discussion. It would mean so much to try one more pathway, if anyone has any idea how. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com